MY GUY BESTFRIEND

"My guy bestfriend"

Hi! Call me Alexa, born and raised in Dipolog city but studied in Cebu (USC). Average looking girl lang ko, always on the go, happy go lucky, loves to party, hang out with friends, in short YOLO kind of girl. Two months after our college graduation, at that time I had a boyfriend (now ex bf) I was invited to my bf (ex) birthday party. Ako man jud ang type of girl na easy to get along lang but my God I can't stand my bf's friends, grabe ka mga plastik, kabalo man gud ko na they don't like me but duh! The feeling is mutual. I was super bored to death at the party like "please kill me now kind of bored". I wished to leave the party already but out of respect to my bf's friend who was celebrating his bullshit birthday at that time, I decided to stay a little bit longer. It was past midnight when my mood suddenly changed completely. Niapas ang isa pa ka amiga sa akong uyab ( God I hated her, the biggest bitch in the world) naa siyay kuyog na super nalang gyud ka lami na guy like he is ridiculously good looking guy, macho, boy next door face, oozing with sex appeal, basta, tall, mestiso, handsome and full sleeve tattoos. In short, anak sa ginoo a.k.a my ideal guy cause I am a sucker for macho and gwapo. I was instantly attracted to him na daun. I don't know why but as soon as I saw him gikilig ko, I had chills in my spine. The whole night, I noticed na mura siyag out of place, behave lang siya, he would only talk if someone asks him something. Basta super ka quiet, naka ana gud daun ko my God, badboy nga pina mysterious, he is exactly my type. Ako daun siya gi dool and chika chika daun me, we clicked instantly like mura na daun me ug bff, mura suyag long lost friend nako na dugay na wala makita. Despite sa iya ka hilomon, nice man diay siya ka talk, lingaw, walay libog and funny sad siya until na noticed nako nga akong bf mura nag selos. Well nag selos jud diay cause we had a huge fight after that night kay nag flirt2 daw ko ni baby boy bisag wala at least not intentionally. Haha. To cut the story short, nagka vibes gyud me ug au. It was almost like we had the same traits, I saw myself in him, boy version nako siya at least sa personality. Anyway, one day, i received an odd text message asking me if mo laag ba daw ko, tbh, I wasn't expecting na mo text siya nako ( well I was kind of hoping duh!) so pina reply ra sad ko ug who's this?, ni reply daun siya sa iya name. By the way, iyang name diay is Alex ( like omg same me ug name, soulmate? char!) so ako sad kilig to the bones, mao to I told him yes, mang laag me ron sa barkada sa ako bf, and ni reply ra sad siya ug see you there. Like OmG! Magkita me ug balik. Mao to nag kita me sa club kay kuyog diay siya sa miga sa ako uyab. Mao to tagad daun me like murag dugay ng kaila, super cool this guy gyud oi. Kami lang jud cgeg talk and dance ato nga night kay ako uyab biya biyaan ko kay daghan man kaau siyag friends gud so ako kevs na ko kay enjoy jud kaau ka talk si Alex , he talks with sense gyud like super witty kay english speaking kaau cause he was raised in America. Complete package gyud siya. Mao di jud nako ma likayan nga magka gusto sa iyaha but wala koy intention other than makig friends niya kay cool man jud au siya and hey! Naa koy uyab. So I'm off limits from Alex. Char haha. Until naabot among topic sa iyang personal life, out of nowhere I asked him asa iya gf. It took him a while before siya ni answer, ana ra siya he's been single na daw for over two years. Like what the hell! There's no way, a good looking guy like him would be available for that long, not even a week, I don't think so! Na surprised gyud kay ko. Na curious gyud kog au niya and omg single siya, ako double, joke! I mean naay uyab so not gonna happen. After that night, mas ni strong among friendship. Like always na siya kuyog everytime naay laag sometimes mag host siyag party sa iyang condo and invited me sa akong uyab. Yes! He's cool like that. Weeks, months, years ug nilaag super close na gyud me like siya na gyud akong guy bestfriend. Like literally bestfriend na gyud me. And kami sa ako uyab, we were not a perfect couple, cge me ug away, akong uyab permi na ga selos sa closeness namo ni Alex. Dili na siya gusto nga mag kita pa me ni Alex. Kani si Alex super goofy and sweet kaau, siya jud ang permi nako ka text all day every day, lupigon pa akong mga ancient friends. Mao na daun to permi na ga selos ako uyab kay why daw mag cge ko katawa if mo text si Alex nako, like funny man sad gyud iyang mga texts. Sa cge na namo ug away sa ako uyab tungod rang Alex which let me clarify, friends ra jud me ( I kind of wished we were more than that but duh! Like it's ever gonna happen, he is completely out of my league) dili nana new issue sa ako uyab na mag selos sa ako mga guy friends, Btw, I have more guy friends than girl friends. Mas dali ko ma close gud sa guys kaysa girls, idk why dili ko igat, cool like that lang jud ko and mas ganahan ko makig close ug boys kay walay kemi ug arte go lang ng go. Tanan guy friends nako selosan gyud sa ako uyab and never once nga nag selos ko sa iyaha bisag daghan siyag girl friends. Bisag selosan sa ako bf si Alex go lang gihapon me sa pag hang out2 ni Alex but never nako gi mention sa iyaha na mag selos ako uyab cause abi palang kendall jenner ko na ilogan diba? Charot! Until one day I found out na ako diay bf, traydor diay! He cheated on me with his schoolmate and it's been going on for over two months na, I was devastated like wtf! I couldn't believe he would do that to me. I was mad, broken, sad, basta kanang feeling na traydoron kag uyab. Mao na! But I handled the situation really well kay dili ako ang type na girl na mag scandalo, bisag kiat kog nawng, civilized gihapon ko. So I confronted my bf if it was true and he confirmed it. Wa jud ko ksabot sa ako gibati ai ang giatay kusog pa mag selos2 mao diay ga buhat ug crimin. Anyway, I disconnected myself from everyone after sa nahitabo and si Alex ra jud of all people ang ni reach out nako, he was worried, cge siyag call and text but deadma ra jud ko cause I was trying to heal my wounded heart but di man jud keri nga ako rang usa oi. I need company, I need tagay buddy so mao to nag sabot me ni Alex mag tagay sa crossroads. I tried to compose myself but di jud keri mga bes I broke down gyud in front if Alex and that was so embarrassing. Siya jud cgeg hatag ug advice nako ai, bisag dili gwapo akong uyab pero love jud nako siya kay 4 years baya me uyab sa animal but he threw it all away like a piece of paper for some slut. Mao to perfect man siya mohatag ug advice, like I needed to think about it thoroughly gyud daw. If remorseful ako uyab and if mo promise dili na buhaton unsa ako angay buhaton kay sayang sad baya ang four years and to think open me sa among families both sides and plan pa namo magpakasal and Di sad ko ka tell sa akong family sa pang hitabo si I kept it from them. Basta hysterical gyud kaau ko and ang Alex siya jud ang tig hatag ug advice. Iya gi explain ang side sa akon uyab as a guy maka relate daw siya sa akong uyab so dili siya bias so medyo traydor siya mga bes sa akong side mao bilib jud kay kos boang gyud kay lihiro mo hatag ug advice. My God he has it all. Crush nako si Alex from the day I met him but diha ra kutob I was even vocal about that with him pagani and we just joke about it lang kay lage friends baya me and naa koy uyab and siya sad fling2 and one night stand rana iyang mga affair kay utro sad siya wala pa ka move on completely sa iyang ex nga murag vs model. Until months later, makig balik man jud ako uyab like he begged me so I decided na mag balik me but ang akong trust guba na gyud kaau. It was never the same anymore. Long story short 8 months later and upat ka tumbling hala oi my boyfriend broke up with me. For what reason? Love na niya ang iya ka fling2 na girl( different girl) ang leche wa jud ma usab. Once a pig, always a pig. So ang ako back to drama na sad mga bes. Hurt, dumped, broken. Kill me now! Sakit jud kaau ang gibuhat sa akong uyab nako. I was back in a "Fool me once, shame on me, full me twice shame on you situation" sakit tood pero that was it. Di na jud ko makig balik bisan pag siya nalang ang mabilin na laki sa world. Good bye jerk! For good. Drama na sad ko, iyak iyak na sad ko while tagay tagay and si Alex naa ra jud na siya permi. 4 months later sakit gihapon ang nahitabo but slight nalang, but there were times na maka huna huna jud gihapon kos akong uyab na chaka. Mao to single nako for four months, cge ra me ug laag sa ako friends and Alex. Birthday nako ga clubbing me, nakig talk kong Alex thanking him for everything for standing by me and for being such a great friend. 2 bottles of grey goose vodka and 5 bottles of red horse later, hubog na kaau ko mga bes omg! Ga pa kuyog kong Alex mag cr, mao daun to astang taasa sa waiting line sa mga girls mao daun to gi sneak in kong Alex sa Men's room perting hawana, iya daun ko gi hug and I looked at him straight piste gyud oi ni 10times man iya ka gwapo nga hubog ko leche. Wa jud ko kaantos mga bes ako daun siyang gi chula oi, french kiss na agad agad, shit lamiag lips tender juicy kaau. Siya daun ang ni end sa kiss and gi pa sud na daun kos cr para mangihi and nag wait lang siya sa gawas. Few hours later, uli name, shit ako nabitin jud ko and lami nalang jud siya kaau but deadma naman siya, mura siyag na cold but before ko niya gipasakay sa car sa among miga ni greet pa siya nakog happy birthday and namauli na daun me. Chaka kaau wa juy part two. Abi kog maka birthday sex ko, joke haha. Awkward kaau. The next day, wala man siyay text oi. Anyway dili man sad siya morning person so wala ra sad ko na lain until hapon naman oi and wala man gihapon. Leche mao to ako na siya gi text kay feel nako na lain siya gabie. When I was about to text him, I received a text from him na mag dinner daw me sa ayala, ang ako sad go jud daun. Mao to ga dinner me at first silent awkward then I broke the silence and brought up the kissing scene sa club daun ana ra siya he'd rather not talk about it, so wala nalang sad ko, change subject nalng daun. I'm not gonna lie after me gabuwag sa ako ex siya man jud ako gi long oi siya ako gusto ma uyab. Pina advice pa siya nako nga di daw ko ma worry cause " there are plenty of fish in the sea daw". I so want to tell him na he's the kind fish that I want for breakfast, lunch, dinner and mid night snacks. He has no idea that he is the biggest fish in my sea. Haha! Nagool na kaau ko sa akong lovelife murag matigulang na single man jud ciguro ko oi. Anyway, we went to his condo and didto me ga inom2 ug wine until tipsy na ming duha and emote2 gihapon ko kay gool na lage au ko sa akong lovelife. Lovelife ra sad jud ako ka gol an kay naa man koy stable job. Anyway, we didn't realize na 2am naman diay so he insisted na mag stay over nalang ko. At first I said no (abi palang easy girl, haha) mouli lang kos apartment, but ni insist jud siya. 20 big "NO's" later, nisogot nalang ko. Hala mga bes tapad jud me sa iya bed ai. I felt weird, I couldn't figure out if it was butterflies in my stomach or I had too much wine, anyways, who cares? Tapad na baya me so kevs na. Haha. As we were laying down in his bed, he grabbed me and he wrapped me around his arms and he told me to stop worrying cause everything will be alright daw and that the right guy will come in real time. Gikilig ko mga bes. I turned over and looked at him and jokingly said (well half meant) na kami nalang and pakaslan ko niya, it was a moment of silence, awkward na daun. Gi kulbaan ko mga bes so ni ana nalang ko nga joke ra oi and we just laughed. Mao to gitotokan lang ko niya and ni ana siya "ok I will make a pact, by the time you're 30 and single ka, pakaslan tika" omg! Kadugay pa! Nangatawa nalang sad me and nag ka kiss jud me. Chula ra jud nahitabo namo that night unil naka tulog name. 

FF: after that night mas ni flourished among friendship, our bond was stronger than ever. Sa amo ka close, I couldn't tell if more than friends me, special friends or unsa ba kay dili baya me uyab wala baya siya nanguyab nako so ako wala nalang sad ko mo question although akong feelings toward him mas ni grabe gyud. Siya makig date2 siyag random girls, ako sad naa sad ma date lain guys but diha ra taman. Until pila ka months later naay guy nanguyab nako, he was nice but dili jud nako bet but choosy pa ba ko? I told Alex about him and he seemed upset and niana ra siya na if ganahan daw ko sa guy, go daw ko basta happy ko basta siya daw he could feel like something wasn't right with the guy daw mao to ako siya gi prangkahan na he doesn't get to decide for me and support nalang sa ako decision. Didto nag start ang gap sa amo friendship but support raman gihapon siya nako not totally pero ok nalang siya. Ako gi sugot ang guy, uyab na me, permi me kuyog and wala na au me time mag kuyog ni Alex. Months later, naabot ang unexpected, na buntis ko sa guy, and after I told him na I was pregnant with our baby, iya daun ko gi bulagan, di daw siya ready. Didto gyud ko nag hinilak. Once again, gibulagan kog uyab. I didn't know what to do. I called Alex, we talked, he was devastated, we both were. Long story short, two months later, Alex flew back to the states. Wala na jud koy maka talk aside sa akong other friends but lahi raman gud si Alex, he was like the most important friend gyud. Wala na me communication for pila ka months. That was the most depressing period sa ako life until nanganak ko. After that, I decided na di na jud ko manguyab. Happy naman sad ko and contented sa akong baby girl. Single mom and happy. At least after all sa nahitabo I was still blessed with a beautiful girl. Years had passed and I still hadn't heard from Alex, I missed him everyday and I always wonder how he was doing. Mag 30 years old nako and to my surprised naabot si Alex sa balay, happy kaau ko, perting iyak kaau nako pagkakita niya. Same Alex that I knew, gwapo, macho, sweet basta perfect package gihapon siya and nothing was even more surprising when he get down on one knee and proposed to me. He kept his promise na iya ko pakasalan if mag 30 ko and single. Believe it or not, nag proposed gyud siya sa akoa and he was willing to take on the responsibility of my baby girl and stand as her father, perting iyak nako, he left me speechless. I said yes to his proposal and he confessed na dugay ra sad diay siya naay feelings for me, he just ignored it cause our friendship was more important to him and greater than anything else. Siya na jud ang pinaka amazing na guy na ako nailhan. That was the best day of my life. To cut the story short, wala me nakasal, 3 months before our wedding, gikuha siya ni Lord. I'm not going into details cause until now it bleeds when I think about it. God knows how much I love that guy that it hurts. I have loved him more than he'll ever know 😞 I guess mao jud ciguro ni akong fate. Nadawat na nako. Karon nana kos dubai, working single mom and life goes on for me.

Alexa

USC Graduate

BSBA